She’s Still There: A Book Review
It is so easy to put your life on cruise control and let the days slip away. Most of life is made up of days that stretch on. You watch the minute-hand on the clock tick, ever so slowly at work or school. Depending on your current role or season of life, you may wonder if bedtime (or the next day’s do-over) will ever come. There are highs and lows sprinkled throughout your life until—one day—you wake up and look in the mirror only to discover a stranger staring back at you.
You may wonder–where is the fun-loving, brilliant, vibrant woman I use to recognize?
Actually, she’s still there.
ON FINDING MYSELF
I am blessed beyond my greatest expectations. I have a loving family, good friends, and I get to stay home and homeschool my kids.
Is this how I expected my life to turn out? Not exactly.
While my peers spent their early 20s building careers and on the dating scene, I fast forwarded to marriage and kids. I spent many years in survival mode, balancing marriage, motherhood, and work.
Once I began my SAHM journey, I looked forward to slowing down my pace. When I did, I realized that I was a far cry from the artistic, sincere, excitable girl I used to be. I was TIRED.
This happens to women all the time, especially mothers. We are often too busy in the throes of career, housework, parenting, and everything else to continue doing the things that feed our souls. We are nurturers and caregivers to the core, but we quickly forget the importance of tending to ourselves.We are nurturers and caregivers to the core, but we quickly forget the importance of tending to ourselves. Click To Tweet
In the past couple of years, God has awakened me to who I am inside, and to the fact that He has a plan and purpose for my life. Without Him, I would be lost in a sea of disillusion, buried under the weight of discontentment.
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In She’s Still There, Chrystal Evans Hurst shares her own personal journey back to her authentic self. She talks about growing up as a pastor’s daughter, being an ambitious college student, and giving birth to her first child before graduating college. After working to support herself and her daughter, she meets her husband, with whom she expands her family. Chrystal transitions from a single mom to a married working mom, to a homeschooling mom, to a self-employed writer and speaker. She is transparent and relatable as she shares her journey and encourages the reader to take stock of her own life.
SHOULD YOU READ IT?
She’s Still There is a life-changing read for the woman who has been living on autopilot, who is in survival mode, or who is just trying to make it another day (or until the kids grow up). And for the woman who fits all three of these scenarios. She’s Still There inspired me to take charge and to show up for my life. As a SAHM, it is easy to lose myself underneath stacks of diapers, groceries, and checklists. How easy it has been for me to forget that my life is a part of a bigger picture.
If you want to cultivate a life that you love, find your purpose, and revive your soul, grab a copy and dig right into She’s Still There.
If you’d rather try before you buy, you can download two chapters for free here.If you want to cultivate a life that you love, find your purpose, and revive your soul, grab a copy and dig right into She's Still There. Click To Tweet
3 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU NEED HELP FINDING YOURSELF
If you’re feeling pretty meh about life and are not sure where you are headed, I totally recommend that you take yourself out on a date to allow yourself some space to figure things out. Here are some ideas to get your mental juices flowing and get inspired to step into a more authentic and fulfilling lifestyle.
1) Find (or schedule) 5-10 minutes to be completely still.
For this exercise, you will need a notebook and pen or a notetaking app on your phone.
Start off with a prayer asking God to open your eyes and give you insight and understanding. Ask Him to reveal to you what direction to take.
Notice your thoughts. Are they racing? Are they primarily positive, neutral, or negative? Are you thinking about logistics? Are you beating yourself up for something you did, didn’t do, or said recently? Record what you notice.
Notice your feelings. How does your body feel–tense or relaxed? Are you happy? Sad? Apathetic? Hopeful? Stressed? Record how you are feeling.
2) Jot down your daily schedule.
You can use a time-blocking sheet for this. (Download a free one here.) Record how you spend your time for a whole week. How much sleep are you getting? What are you spending most of your time on? How are you spending down time? Take notes and evaluate your schedule.
3) Ask your spouse or closest friends and family for insight.
If, after going through the first two steps, you are still unsure–ask the people closest to you if you still have your mojo. And ask them where you shine, what you are better at than anyone else they know. They have been watching you for some time, and can likely give you clues to point you in the direction of your purpose.
After you’ve taken personal inventory, you should come away with an overall sense of whether you are living with purpose or sort of going with the flow.
NEXT STEPS TO FINDING YOURSELF
If you’re ready to go deeper, consider enlisting the help of a counselor. A good counselor can be invaluable as an objective source of support on your journey to finding yourself.
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15:22
For even more tips on purposeful living and identifying your calling (and a free worksheet to guide you), check out this post: 3 Questions to Help You Identify Your Calling.
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